Anger is a natural part of being human. It is a part of life and everyone will go through it at some point. But the problem begins when anger is not handled properly. It can cause problems to the person having issues with it and will eventually affect the people around them.
The good news is: there are many ways to tame your temper.
Recognize and understand your trigger points.
We all have different anger trigger points. These are situations that may lead us to fume up. You could be easily aggravated when someone cuts you off in traffic or you might fume up when a colleague at work behaves in a way that triggers you. Try to recognize situations that could trigger your temper and your physical reaction to them.
One of the best ways to control your anger is to leave the situation before you lose control. To do this, it’s important that you are aware of the signs come prior to you having an angry outburst.
Breathe instead of talk.
In the heat of a situation, it’s so easy to speak words that you’ll probably regret later. To avoid hurting yourself and others, try to stay quiet when you’re angry. Take some deep breaths to calm your nerves. Take a few minutes to collect your thoughts and think carefully before saying anything. In this way, you will have a chance to express your feelings and thoughts in an appropriate manner. Remember, blurting out words produced when you are angry is not helpful.
Look for help.
You don’t have to deal with anger issues alone. There are a lot of resources available in your community to help you manage your temper. Don’t be afraid to ask for help by going to counseling sessions and workshops that teach you how to manage your anger in a healthy way. Counseling can be helpful to process unresolved trauma (which may be contributing to the angry outbursts) and change patterns of behaviours that we have inherited from our parents. You can also find a support group, talk to a close friend, and reach out to your doctor about the problem so they can help you.
Focus on the solution.
No matter how difficult your situation is, you can always make a choice to get support for your anger issues. Aside from attending counseling, there are many ways to direct your energy positively. Learn how to communicate your needs in a calm manner, practice yoga or simple relaxation techniques, exercise more, and take a timeout whenever you need one. You don’t need to sacrifice your relationships just because your anger gets in the way. Go ahead and live a normal life by channeling your energy into more productive and engaging activities.
Keep in mind that you are not the only one experiencing anger issues. Many people around the world live with their anger. You can work on making things better for yourself and your relationships. You may never be able to get rid of anger because it is a reality of life, but you can always be wiser in controlling your temper and not letting it destroy your relationships.