How to Survive a Bad Breakup: What You Should Do

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There is no easy way to fix a broken heart. Anyone who suffers from a breakup, especially for the first time, will need weeks, months, and even years to fully feel at ease with their situation. Some will find it easy to bounce back, while others will be clueless, not knowing how to move forward. Whether it is the first time or the tenth time, with a special someone or with a close friend, be it a mutual decision or your decision, any separation is not always that easy to handle.

If you find yourself suffering from this emotional breakdown, remember that it will not be simple, but it is possible. 

Respect Is the Beginning of Everything

Separating with the person you still love will feel like torture for a long time. There will be many occasions wherein you will feel that you want to win them back once more. However, you should learn when to stop. 

If the other person already said that getting back together is no longer possible, it’s best to listen, respect, and understand. Trying to fight for the relationship despite the endless rejection of the other party would only result in more pain to both of you. Focus on recovery, which always begins with acknowledging what happened and why things went the way they did. 

Never use another person to help yourself heal. Doing that is not genuine healing. Instead, you are only adding one more person to your suffering. Some people do that because they are desperate to feel loved and cared for once again. Unless that feeling is sincere, you are only putting yourself into another problematic situation. 

Keep Yourself Busy

After a bad breakup, you will find yourself wanting to sleep, cry, or eat all the time. While undergoing this stage is part of the process, you can always find a way to step out. One effective way to break the routine is to keep yourself busy. 

When your mind is preoccupied with many things, it would be easy to avoid thinking about your past relationships. Sometimes, recalling the past is what makes it difficult for you to move forward in life. Instead of getting stuck in that cycle, make new memories or new achievements that would give you more reason to get distracted and live a better life.

Is there a language or instrument that you have always wanted to learn? Have you hung out with your friends or visited your dream destination? Doing some physical activities will surely bring out more endorphins in your system. Help yourself get out of the situation. 

Treat Yourself

After a breakup, it is time to celebrate being with yourself again. Shower yourself with the love and attention that you have been giving to people. Why not deep clean your apartment? Get that massage, drink that expensive wine, or dine in that 5-star restaurant. Make your life about you again. 

You will soon realize how many things you can achieve and do. You will once again discover your worth and the kind of love, relationship, and treatment that you deserve.

Conclusion

All these are easier said than done, but what matters is giving yourself enough time to grieve and believing the time to move on will soon come. Look forward to that day when you wake up, knowing that it is time for you to step out of your comfort zone. That is when you start taking yourself out once again and focusing on what will make you happy. Of course, this will not be easy, but your friends, family, and even professional counsellors are here to help you make it through.

If you believe that separation counselling would help you take your next step, Chettiar Counselling & Associates is here, ready to work with you. Allow us to help you overcome inner difficulties as well as improve how you handle your external relationships. You do not have to suffer alone; call us, and we will be more than happy to listen.