How to Deal with Loneliness after Separation or Divorce


Loneliness may affect anyone. Everyone experiences loneliness for a variety of reasons, whether they are alone or with others. Long-term or persistent loneliness, though, might start to affect your mental health if left untreated.

Separation entails letting go of aspects of your life that are no longer appropriate for you and ushering in change that is unavoidable. This may result in a variety of emotions, including loneliness.

Divorce and separation are obviously challenging, but there are steps you can take to help yourself get ready for the loneliness you may experience and find the balance that works best for you. 

Below are helpful and thoughtful suggestions for overcoming loneliness.

Establish a New Schedule

Your daily schedule might be dramatically altered by the loss of a relationship, including work schedules, mealtimes, bedtimes, school runs, and more. 

If abandoning this rhythm leaves you feeling disoriented, try developing a new routine that integrates the tasks you must complete, creates new healthy habits, and includes activities you enjoy.

Invest in Yourself

The cornerstone of your well-being is self-care; even small acts of self-care can help when times are tough. A less thrilling but no less effective end of the self-care continuum exists in addition to unwinding behaviours like listening to your audiobook or taking a luxury bath. 

For instance, scheduling that dentist appointment you’ve been putting off, making sure you get enough rest and nutrition and checking on your finances. Setting aside time each day to take care of yourself and do something special for you will be beneficial.

Reestablish Friendships

A strong support system of friends may be a lifesaver during a breakup and a pick-me-up when you’re down. It might be wise to review your friendships right now. 

In order to prevent loneliness, put your attention toward creating gratifying connections and fortifying friendships since you deserve to be loved and cherished.

Learn about Your Triggers

Knowing your triggers can enable you to prevent feeling more isolated or alone. Perhaps you get a bad sense from social media. You might not want to return home to an empty house, or you might want to go out to dinner without feeling awkward. 

Decide on one adjustment that will make the circumstance that bothers you the most better and implements it. After taking that action, think about what you can do next and carry on. 

It is impossible to anticipate that you will adjust in one go, but going slowly and progressively directing your life on a better path will help.

Maintain Contact

Consider their age and the length of your separation when deciding how and when to communicate with your kids while you’re gone. To stay in touch when you’re separated, you may set up a regular phone call or video conference with your family. 

Communication is preferable for certain people and lets kids know they can reach you at any time. In order to allay any worries, keep in mind that they might feel guilty or responsible for you being by yourself.


Being alone might make you feel stuck in the present. You may build a life that you genuinely appreciate by taking charge and directing your own destiny. 

Having something to look forward to, whether you organize a walk with a buddy, register for an event, or plan a vacation, might improve your mood. 

While planning events with friends and family is vital, you should also consider doing things yourself if you don’t normally do so to increase your self-esteem and independence.

Chettiar Counselling & Associates is ready to help if you need separation counselling. Our therapists offer assistance in managing a variety of conditions, including anxiety, depression, anger management, addiction therapy, marital problems, parenting support, separation, and divorce.

To assist you in deciding whether the counselling services we offer will be a suitable fit for you, we also provide free phone consultations. Call today to get started.