A once-happy relationship can be plagued by many problems that will result in its breakdown. Even when individuals get along well, stress and everyday life can produce disputes that appear difficult, if not impossible, to settle. Relationship counselling may assist persons in these difficult situations in working through their issues, moving past them, and becoming better partners overall.
When to Seek Couples/Marriage Counseling
When should you consider going to couples therapy? If you have the same dispute again and over without getting anywhere, it might be time to consult a therapist. You can also consult a therapist if you're lost on how to handle a complex issue as a couple, if you're thinking about breaking up, or if there's been a severe stressor on the relationship, such as Anger, infidelity, insecurity, miscommunication, power imbalance, resentment, financial hardship, or trauma.
Most individuals seek couples counselling when their intimacy or communication is stalled and on life support. The pair is frequently at a crossroads, unsure of how to go or even if they want to proceed at all.
On the other hand, healthy couples can benefit from couples counselling since it allows them to better their connection and communication. So, if you're experiencing problems, you shouldn't just go.
Giving up due to these signs of trouble is not the way to go, however, suffering through the same endless draining cycle of pain is also not helpful.
Signs that you should seek relationship therapy include:
- Ineffective communication with your spouse
- Boredom or apathy towards your relationship
- wanting to learn how to create constructive conflict
- Having the same argument over and over again with no end in sight
- a desire to strengthen your relationship
- You're feeling estranged from your lover.
- Feeling as if you're not receiving what you need (for example, time or affection)
- Taking on a significant life event (like moving, a new job, or a tough decision)
- Transitioning from couplehood to new parenthood
- Managing the Transition from Parenthood to Emptying the Nest
- There is a betrayal present (an affair or unfaithfulness)
- Are you contemplating divorce or wondering if you should call it quits?
- A desire to lay a solid foundation before marrying (premarital counselling)
- Being too devoted to one another (codependency)
- The existence of prior traumas that manifest themselves in your relationship
Are you experiencing similar relationship issues?
Book an appointment for couples counseling.
Couples therapy works on two areas:
1. Addressing issues on communication and other pressing concerns
In this part, the therapist helps the couples to be honest, straightforward, and vulnerable when they communicate with each other rather than avoid, blame, or placate one another. The therapist serves as an intermediary party as you and your partner learn new strategies for communicating and apply or practice them in real-life situations.
2. Letting go of accumulated relational stress from the past
A deeper aspect of couples’ therapy is to help couples face past relational stress that has accumulated over the course of their relationship and to heal from these past wounds.
Now that you have more helpful strategies for better and honest communication, you will both have a chance to process any insecurity, infidelity, physical abuse, and secrets without either one of you pointing fingers.
The second area is often the most difficult to work with but couples counseling will help lay down the proper foundation for success.
Oftentimes, it only takes the first level for couples to regain their love and respect for each other. But you and your partner can decide which approach will work best for both of you.